The human body is a sexual pleasure machine, and the female body even more so than the male. Unfortunately, most people don’t even realise what women’s sexual potential is. Throw away the limiting beliefs, expand your possibilities to so much more - open yourself up to your glorious potential!

Our five senses of sight, sound, smell, taste and touch are wonderful tools to explore sensuality and eroticism. Here are some suggestions to inspire you in your own sensual adventures.

Do you love unconditionally, or are there conditions to your love? The inability to validate yourself creates a need to have the other validate you, to make you feel ok about yourself and your own values, beliefs and world view.

Becoming a sensual man is not about becoming an insipid new age guy. To be truly sensual, a man needs to be strong, he needs to be able to hold his woman with exquisite tenderness and take her to magical places.

Fortunately this big brain of ours has a dual function - not only has it necessitated us to have good sex, it has also equipped us to have good sex. Our enormous brain capacity allows us to think and plan and fantasize and be creative - all required for good sex!

I have to admit I was excited when my latest review product turned up and it was the brand spanking new LELO Insignia Tiani – a couple’s toy powered by remote control.

So many women hold themselves back from experiencing pleasure. So many women hold back from allowing themselves the indulgence of letting their partner give them that pleasure.

Embrace the sensual and you’ll connect with your body at a deep level and increase your energy, both of which will heighten your desire for sex and your enjoyment of it.

When your lover is in absentia, it opens up wonderful possibilities for ‘distance sex’. There’s no need to go celibate simply because your loved one’s not lying in bed next to you. In fact, absence can not only make the heart grow fonder, it can make the loins grow hotter!

I think this toy is an amazing and unique invention. It stimulates both people at the same time, delivering intense, toe-curling orgasms while being comfortable and quiet and mostly easy to use, and all the time looking like an elegantly designed piece of art.

I’m always stressing that sex is playtime for grown-ups. Sex is about sharing pleasure. That means being creative and experimental and generally having fun with the whole thing. One element of playtime is…toys! Yes, just as kids can play with toys, so can we grown-ups. It’s fun!

Sex is the one thing in life we seem to think should just happen ‘naturally’ without any focused attention and study. Which is completely absurd, and one of the reasons why people don’t have good sex lives!

To a man, his beloved is so much more than just someone to have sex with. She is his inspiration, his reason for being, she is what gives him meaning and drive in life. When a man connects deeply with his woman, when he makes beautiful love with her, he feels all-powerful, as though he could conquer the world - and he does!

Essentially a makeover is when you realise you’re not living up to your potential in some area of life and set about changing that. Can you makeover your sex life? Of course you can!

When two people’s brains are wired sex-positively, they come together in openness, not anxiety/resignation/annoyance/fear of rejection, etc. The more you come together in this way, the stronger the wiring becomes and the easier it is to enjoy love-making.

Think about electrical sockets. You have a masculine socket and a feminine socket. Bringing them together enables the energy to flow.

A woman’s desire is contextual, it’s not simply a biological urge. It depends enormously on how she fees and what’s going on around her. This article explores what a woman needs to ‘keep her water simmering.

The masculine sexual energy is like fire: it comes on quickly, burns brightly and extinguishes quickly. The feminine sexual energy is like water: it’s slow to heat up, but once it’s boiling it will boil and boil and boil and boil…

I often get asked in interviews how I deal with jealousy whilst negotiating infidelity. Compare a love where jealousy is acceptable to a love that replaces it with generosity. Which love would you rather have?

Self help books, women’s magazines and traditional therapists extol the virtues of intimacy as the way to improve your relationship and therefore have better sex. Now certainly intimacy does require connection and communication, but it’s the how, the what and the how much that matters.

The individual is the basic unit and it is only through you that change happens, or doesn’t. It’s up to the individual to find their spiritual connection, their connection to the environment, and their connection to their sexuality.

Time after time I get exhausted people coming to me wondering what’s wrong with them, why they don’t have any desire for sex. The answer is pretty simple – you’re too tired. Exhausted, flat, overwhelmed, worn out, drained… None of these states are conducive to a raging libido.

If you are reading this article and are in a long-term relationship, chances are you are running about average! Chances are you’ve started taking your partner for granted and if you introduce a little friendly competition into the mix, large holes of ‘us’ time suddenly start appearing in your diaries.

Communing is enjoyable and relaxing and connecting. Beforeplay is at least as important as the Foreplay. It’s the way you relate and feel about each other (and therefore about yourself) before you even get to the bedroom.

We love our boxes. We have them around our work, our gender, our ethic grouping, our age, our relationship status. For so many people, their lives are boxes within boxes, constraints within constraints, limitations within limitations.

What are the small things that mean a lot to you, and which mean a lot to your partner? How can you keep the connection strong through small and frequent acts of kindness and affection? It can be words, it can be touch, it can be actions, it can be gifts and it can simply be spending time together.

Yes, it’s a play on words, but it’s also an extremely important point. A couple can only have good on-going sex if they both agree to make it good. You both need to agree to ditch the monotony!

Our sexuality is one area where many people aren’t open and honest and true to themselves. No matter how much personal development work they’ve done, if they’ve missed out this crucial part of themselves, then they’re never going to be whole and real.

Solo sex is a healthy part of everyone’s sex life, whether you’re single or partnered. People often think it’s only something you’d do if you weren’t getting ‘the real thing’. But solo sex is fabulous in its own right, and when done well can enhance your ability to have better partnered sex.

That might sound obvious, of course you should love your partner. But do you really? And if you so, how do you express that love? Are you treating your partner like your lover? Your bedroom is the practice ground for love. Allow it there and transform the world.

It doesn’t matter what size you are. Full-figured, voluptuous people can be far more luscious than skinny twigs. All that flesh and softness and roundness – just like a juicy peach.

Sex is a paradox. It needs the difference between man and woman, yet it reminds them that they are not different at all. In this way pleasure is the world’s great equalizer.

My advice – get to know your vagina! Whether you’ve got a G or an AFE or XYZ spot, there are undoubtedly good bits that work specifically for you. The important thing is to relax and explore and enjoy your wonderful womanly bits!

Sex doesn’t have to be the last thing you do at night, it doesn’t even have to be in the evening. Having sex before dinner can be great! Think of it as entrée, rather than the traditional dessert.

As the famous quote from John Cleese in “the Meaning of Life” goes: You don’t just go barrelling on down to the clitoris! What’s wrong with a kiss?

Our society is full of myths about sex. It’s because we don’t talk openly about the details of sex and because there have been so many moral issues associated with sex for so long that so many beliefs are taken for truth. There are many aspects to moving forward sexually, one of the key ones is to ditch all the myths that plague us.

There’s a veritable smorgasbord of sexual possibilities, so why limit yourself to meat and three veg (with vanilla ice-cream as a special treat!)? Unless of course all you actually like is meat and three veg. I keep stressing that there are no ‘shoulds’ in sex, the important thing is to find out what is real for you and honour that.

A friend asked me recently what my top 10 tips for a vagina would be. Good question! So many women feel disconnected from their genitals. So read on and find out my top 10 tips for your vagina.

Someone who’s a connoisseur of sex is interested in savouring sex, whether it’s a late night cuddle under the covers or a weekend of erotic delights. It’s the quality that counts, not the quantity. They know how much is enough because they’re in tune with the subtle aspects of sex.

We are a voyeuristic species but just like too much chocolate is unhealthy too much porn can interfere with your true sexual connection with your partner.

So carrying on from my previous two posts, what is real – are humans monogamous or not? Is monogamy a natural state that all humans gravitate to, or is it a social norm superimposed upon a different biological basis?

Following on from the last blog post, where I debunked the myth that men are naturally promiscuous due to their need to spread their seed far and wide, I’d now like to examine the widely held myth that women are not naturally promiscuous.

There’s a perpetuating myth in our society that men are naturally more promiscuous than women. One of the reasons given for this is that men have evolved to ‘sow their seed widely’. I'm never sure whether to pull my hair out in frustration or laugh at the ludicrousness of such as suggestion.

When you’ve got so much on, and life has become a constant juggling of priorities, it can be hard to set everything aside so that you can focus on sex, without the distraction of all the other things you could be doing.

Jacqueline writes that you should allow for all types of sex in your life, from the simple to the spicy (whatever that is for you) and you’ll keep your sexual connection strong and your life so much more satisfying.

As with so much of our society, we tend to categorise and label ourselves and others. I believe in the full range of sexual expression, as long as it comes from a place that is real. But the most important thing of all when it comes to sex is fun. Sex is play-time for grown-ups and playful sex has got to be the best of all.

Here are the seven fundamental sex tips to help you as a busy person have that blissful haven of fabulous sex. Read them, and, if they make sense to you and you want practical advice on how to use the Secrets in your life, buy and read my full book Sex Secrets for Busy People.

Holly lets you into some secrets from a workshop she attended called “Blow his mind” which was run by the Scarlet Alliance. Share these tips tonight - it might be the most empowering thing you ever did.

The number one thing that most guys seem to forget is that most girls need their clit stimulated to achieve an orgasm. Holly sets out some easy lessons ... homework has never been so much fun.

There she is. Sitting over by the bar surrounded by friends and laughing merrily at some joke that stupid jock on her left told her. Imagine it. Her lying in your bed, damp hair askew and begging you to fuck her again. Sounds more fairy tale than fantasy, doesn’t it? Not any more.

Traditionally, female sluts are admired by men and loathed by women, and male sluts are loathed by women and admired by men. (Mars and Venus must be laughing all the way to the Moon.) Yet a change is finally occurring and 20-somethings are beginning to relish just how good a clitoris can make you feel.

There are some surprising men’s explanations of what testosterone does to them and the influence it has on their genitals. I believe them. (After all, someone had to think up all the jokes). These are their tales.

So there are a range of toys out there that stimulates clits at the same time as our partner fucks us. They are relatively inexpensive and are just about guaranteed to have you initiating sex, not him.

Welcome to the wonderful world of submission and domination. Sometimes referred to as topping and bottoming. Sounding kinky yet? Hell no!

Once regarded as the last bastion of gay men, male arseholes are making a comeback. I have it on very good authority that prostate stimulation feels like ‘a long, continuous orgasm’ and is on par with – if not better – than ejaculation.

We all strive towards equality in our relationships and yet double standards are rife among the best of them. We all know that men have sex on the brain but a man who says ‘no’ can often be met with frank disbelief or even ridicule.

Relationships don’t fail, per se - they merely change. If we stop giving ourselves such a hard time, yesterday’s changed relationships are fundamental to the happiness of our relationships today and we should look upon them as successful lessons learnt the hard way.

If you’re not having an orgasm every time your boyfriend does, you’re running about average. Many women - including yours truly – have difficulty climaxing during normal, penetrative sex. But it doesn’t have to be that way!

You’ve heard it before and you’ll hear it again - you will NEVER achieve orgasm unless you start masturbating.

Described by neuropsychologists as having a ‘low risk aversion’, Holly Hill has led an adventurous life. Her story is ironically empowering - it is a feminist tale about a woman who proposes a highly controversial modern day solution to the highest divorce rate in centuries.

A couple of the responses to my first articles here on AMM echo some of the feedback I’ve had from women who use online dating sites. And it’s this – so many guys have completely the wrong mindset when they target females that take their fancy on a dating site.

Are you using dating sites with the motive of increasing the amount of sex you get? If you have the right mindset and target appropriately, there is no reason you shouldn’t be putting more notches on your bedpost after meeting and having sex with people you meet online.

In the world of online dating – getting it right the first time can be the difference between meeting someone for a fun night and suffering another “KK” (Kleenex and KY) evening. Here are a half-dozen tips that will help you avoid making the common mistakes, and ensure you do better than the complacent guys out there.

A man accompanied by a wing woman will be portrayed as having much more value than a man accompanied by male friends or a man who is by himself. Therefore a wing woman by your side can significantly increase your chances of meeting that special someone.

I’m Zac Knight and I’m like a basketball coach, but for LOVE. You can actually LEARN how to be sexy and attractive to the opposite sex AND THE five revelations I am about to reveal will give YOU an unfair advantage with respect to dating over every other man out there.

I’m Bianca Dye. I guess because I wrote a book on dating I’m now an expert (not!) more so that I’m a 34 year old single chick who has had her fair share of dating – the good, the bad & the so ugly. I thought I’d share the opener to my book and it might just get you in the dating mood.

Holly let's us in on a little secret - there is a way of ensuring he will call you after a one-night-stand.

Most girls I know get hundreds of responses to their online dating profiles. Most guys I know get none. That means making the most out of your retail expeditions. With a little forward planning and some artful cut and pasting, you might never have to go into a mall again!

Now, with the right questions and the ability to type, you can discover blokes on your wavelength without ever leaving your living room through internet dating.

Unfortunately for women, most research suggests that men are not naturally monogamous. In fact, unless they are living in a cave, one hundred percent of men are either physical or mental adulterers. Believe me – when they are

Some people aren’t concerned if friends, family and colleagues discover their swinging lifestyle. For others, it’s their biggest fear and once it happens, they aren’t sure what to do. This article discusses some options, as well as a way to help make the right decision if it ever ends up being you in this situation.

A threesome may seem like a word everyone knows the definition of but do you really? It has come to light that there are various flavours of threesome and what you think a threesome entails versus what I think it entails could be two completely different things… care to find out? I dare ya!

There are a few reasons why people join in the swinging scene and not all of them are conducive to enhancing the relationship. This article discusses some of the better reasons to join in and one in particular to avoid but what you can do about it.

As with anything we do, there are rules, boundaries and etiquette that makes sure that it’s fun and no one gets hurt. Swinging is no different and while most of these are commonsense, it’s not necessarily commonsense to everyone. So read up on your etiquette so you have a fair understanding of how the game is played to keep it fun, flirty and to avoid the tears.

While many people go to clubs and events to meet potential partners and enjoy the venues for what they have to offer, others entertain or host at home. What’s not immediately clear is who is responsible for moving things forward into playing and what’s the basic etiquette since it’s no ordinary dinner party?

I have managed to get some things right in the social media world, but at the same time I have managed to stuff a few things up so I’m writing this to help you avoid my mistakes, and to follow my lead with what I did get right thus far. And since there are a heap of us on Facebook, I’m starting there.

This article explores the best way to create a threesome and I share how we went about it, since we considered both a friend and a stranger. The article talks briefly about the positives and negatives of each and shares some of the fears and concerns we both had with either option. Just promise me you’ll keep it to yourself though.

Single and looking to have some fun? Limiting yourself to hooking up with single guys? Have you checked out swinging with couples or dabbling in the swinging scene? Well you should! There are a whole lot of plusses but rather than asking for your phone number to tell you about it, here is an article just for you!

While there are many signs that let you know your relationship is ready to join in the fun at the swinging playground, there are a few that stand out as essential ingredients to ensure the success of your vanilla-to-swinger transition.

I came across a forum post by a non-swinger who was talking about how swinging was ruining her friendship. It was an interesting post and it prompted this article to discuss boundaries and acceptable behaviour when we’re out with our non-swinging friends.

Often you have one partner who is the social butterfly and finds it easy to chat or mingle at events, and then the other partner is the shy type who finds it difficult to mingle or make new friends/playmates. This article explores some of the issues that come up and gives you a way to help navigate through this bumpy part of the swinging road.

What if you’re overweight? What if you can’t or don’t orgasm on the night? What if you can’t get it up? These 3 fears are really common and this article talks about the reality of these issues in the scene; whether you really need to be worried about them and what you can do about it.

There are times in the swinging scene where men have had trouble getting it up on the night. It often happens more with beginners but can happen to more seasoned swingers too. This article looks at what is happening and some great ways that everyone involved can help make the problem go away.

To work or not to work with a playmate; that is the question! Or is it to play or not play with a work mate? Either way, there are some things to consider as it’s not always all hot times and orgasms, although it can be!

Trust is a simple concept and for the most part the scene is filled with trusting people and people who can be trusted. This article just explores the ways trust is built in the scene, focusing on what playmates can do and how it directly relates to the amount of fun people can have. After all, this is why we’re here, isn’t it?

If one partner wants to stop swinging it’s never an easy situation but it is common as we all have different libido cycles and life pressures that contribute to our enthusiasm for swinging. This article explores what can happen if this comes up and the best way for dealing with it.

Religion has a lot to answer for when it comes to the hang-ups people have around sex, sexuality and relationships. This article just looks at the validity of some of the things people are taught to believe and offers another way to view it so that perhaps some people out there can feel better about their decision to swing, and what kind of awesome person that actually makes them.

Often it’s one person that discovers swinging and wants to try it, but broaching the subject and getting their partner on board can be a difficult conversation. This article tells you how Chantelle did it and some other ways you can tackle the situation.

We’ve personally been able to avoid any STI’s but I thought it would be a good idea to write an article about the main STI’s that come up, what to look for and how to avoid them. I won’t be going into great depth but you will get enough information to gain an awareness that might keep you healthy and safe.

This contract is about discussing everything at the start of relationships, rather than when things turn pear-shaped later on. We often end up investing half of everything we own in our spouse (including our sanity!) and it is important to know each others’ expectations.

In this article I discuss the difference is between swinging being a game and being a way of life, and what a swinging couple’s life looks like when it becomes a way of life. There are a few tell-tale signs but you’ll have to read the article to know which camp you are in…

This is one of the potential outcomes of swinging, or is it? This article discusses the likelihood of it happening, what might cause it but more so, it looks at the best way to deal with it if it ever happens to you…

With the recent negative press about the swinging lifestyle, I thought I’d tackle the question of safety in getting involved from a physical, health and relationship perspective. Is it safe to get into the swing of things? What do people need to know? Read this article to find out.

The thought of being labelled as a slut is something that many women struggle with when they consider swinging, or engaging in wilder sexual acts. This article looks at what the word “slut” means and discusses the validity of that meaning and hopefully it will make some women feel a lot better about letting go and enjoying themselves.

For beginners who are coming into the lifestyle and who aren’t sure which is the best way to go in terms of their first experience with another couple. This article goes into the pro’s and con’s of both being with another beginner couple and being with a couple that have years of experience. At the end of the day it’s up to you but this article might highlight something you hadn’t thought of.

Transitioning to a swinging relationship is one evolution which many people don’t realise is an evolution. It’s not the end though and while many couples don’t evolve to the heights that they could, this article discusses the possible evolutions that could occur between the beginning of swinging and the ultimate evolution…

There are multiple ways to satisfy your swinging appetite and if you haven’t tried private parties, clubs or events, then check out this article that discusses the pro’s and con’s of each. You just never know what you might be missing!

If you’re new to the swinging club and party scene then this article will help you start to work out what clubs, parties or events are more suited to you, where to find them and then how to find out more about them.

While reading a book written by Dr John Gray recently, I was surprised by the introduction where he described an encounter with a rather bold lady who gave him an indecent proposal. Read this article to find out what he did, the thoughts that rattled around in his head as a result and which then prompted my own whirlwind of thoughts. For a moment I thought he was considering swinging!! OMG!

ThePussyKats is night for swinging couples and select singles (guys and gals) to meet in a very classy environment in Melbourne for mingling and ongoing fun, for those who want to join in.

Overall we had a great night at The Monkey Club and again we were completely impressed with the quality of the venue, the hosts and the other couples that came. And if you make it along to one of their awesome parties, tell them Chantelle sent you! Oh and maybe I’ll see you there, we might just become regulars at this rate…

This article goes into some of the reasons why a partner might break the rules, and the best ways to handle it, recover and move forward together. It’s not an easy topic to talk about regardless of if you are the one who broke the rules or the one who didn’t.

So what if swinging was the norm in our society? What differences would there be? What would there be more or less of? Do you think it would improve or destroy the world as we know it? A playful article, a little cheeky but thought provoking too.

Some people love taking photos and video but when it comes to taking photos or video of playmates, what are the rules? How do you take personal responsibility for photos or video taken of you? This article talks about all of that and more…

Swinging is all fun and games while you and your partner are a rock solid couple, but what happens when you start to find yourself feeling more than just a physical attraction to one of your playmates? How do you know if it is something you want to pursue? What do you do to work it out and then what do you do from there?

There were a couple of things I wasn’t expecting when we entered the swinging lifestyle, and the effect on my libido was one of them. In this article I share the parts of the lifestyle that had this wondrous effect and some things I hadn’t expected.

Everything has a lifecycle, including swinging! This article discusses and defines the different phases as well as looks at the pro’s and con’s of each. It gives couples a framework to determine where in the cycle each person is and an understanding as to what that means. Knowledge is power and a little bit of awareness of what’s coming up, can go a long way to resolving any issues.

This is the unspoken question that many people have when it comes to swinging. We tend to compare ourselves to what we see on the x-rated screen and it can have a big impact on a person’s confidence and subsequent willingness to get into swinging. This article will put to bed some of those fears… if you let it!

I received some questions recently about couples who engaged in swinging but where one partner would feel guilt afterwards based on their religious upbringing. It’s mostly people who are raised Catholic or Christian but either way, this article is about questioning where some of the beliefs and values came from and asks you to decide if they are still valid for you today…

For some people who to tell isn’t an issue but there are certainly things that need to be considered before you tell people about your erotic lifestyle. While some people will be in awe of what you get up to, not everyone is as open minded as we are (unfortunately) and once your secret is out, it’s out, there is no going back so have a read of this article for things to consider when it comes to.

There are times when swinging becomes more of a negative effect than a positive effect on a relationship for some couples. This article is about discussing what the warning signs are that mean it’s time for you to take a break from the swinging lifestyle, and what it can mean for your relationship.

If you’re a parent or considering becoming one, and you still want to swing then check out this article which has some handy hints and tips on how you can continue your swinging adventure while keeping the kids in the dark and out of your play space.

If you aren’t 100% sure what swinging is, what kind of people are involved in the lifestyle or you’ve heard some weird stories of what goes on or what they are really into, then check out this article. Its sole purpose is to clear up any misconceptions about what constitutes swinging and what kind of people you’d expect to find engaging in a little extra-marital adventure together.

Are we naturally monogamous or are we naturally swingers? Can we love more than one person at once? Or are we just stuck in old traditions that have been passed down through the generations that we’ve never questioned if they are relevant for ourselves? I have a strong opinion on this one so I suggest read at your own risk.

Welcome to the world of swinging! With the thousands of profiles out there you want to stand out and attract the attention of the sexy playmates you wish to get naked and… well, do what comes naturally with. In this article Chantelle discusses what makes profiles more attractive and how to use it to start filtering for your ideal playmates. So what are you waiting for?

When you say jealousy in the swinging world, the first kind most people think of is the jealousy you’d find between the people in the couple, but that’s not the only place it rears it’s ugly head and it can catch unsuspecting couples by surprise…

When people first consider the swinging lifestyle or have just started into it, they may not be aware of some ways their relationship could be affected by the change. Read this article to find out about the good, the bad and the utterly fabulous ways in which other peoples relationships have changed as a result of swinging – take an eyes wide open approach!

It’s not uncommon to find it difficult to get from the conversation, getting-to-know-you part of the evening, into the full swing (so to speak). In this excerpt from The Ultimate Swingers guide are 7 options you might like to try to move things along a little faster next time.

Swinging is almost cheating with permission but there isn’t automatic permission for everything and in this relationship dynamic there isn’t much room for making mistakes. Read this article for a clearer understanding of where that line is and what you can do to make sure it’s not crossed, after all, you want to keep enjoying the freedom of having new toys!

The swinging scene has more to offer than just opportunities for couples to explore sex, it opens so many more doors that new couples may not have considered. Exploring sexuality is a popular door that opens for many and sometimes it’s a surprising adventure.

When you first start out it can be overwhelming to work out how to find your ideal playmates. In this article Chantelle shares her method for finding the buried treasure in the sea of horny single men out there on the dating sites!

The transition from traditional to swinger can be a wonderful and exciting time in your relationship or it can turn out to be the worst and it’s a fine line between the two. In this article Chantelle shares 3 things you should know in order to keep your relationship on the sizzle track and into the beds of lots of new playmates.

I'm going to share some insider information because as hard as it seems at times, there are certainly things you can do to get a couple's attention.

This is an excerpt from The Ultimate Swingers Guide, the most comphrehensive up the minute manual on swinging ever!

So can swinging save your marriage? Absolutely! Will it save all of them? Hell no, you have to work out what the problems are first and see if a little bit of sex and adventure on the side (together) is what will fulfil the needs not being met.

Should swingers tell their children? And if so, when should they tell them? What impact could it have on them? And is there an advantage to having swinging parents? I say there is but you’re going to have to read more to find out why…

A frank discussion about jealousy in all couples, not just swingers and the sexual revolution that allows you to eat your cake and have it …